do bad experiences need to be talked about?
I work in a particular field where there is controversy (academic). So I am interested in what you think, because I believe you are the expert on being you. Do bad experiences 'need' to be talked about?
At the very moment I wrote this, someone asked me this question ... 'how many hours do cats sleep at night ..."
maybe both questions have the same answer: it depends on the individual cat. No hard and fast rules....
posted by me @ 4:27 AM
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The cats question is easier than the other--16+ hours per day.
Actually the other is pretty easy too. The thing that makes it not as easy is the "need to". "need to" is drastically related to "ought to", "must", and "should", as well as "behoove", all words which I have worked hard to eliminate from my regular vocabulary, including their being used toward/about me.
having said all that, the answer is *of course*!!!!!
Not talking about it is part of what allows it too destroy people. For instance child sexual abuse victims have inordinately better recovery when they are able to tell someone, be believed, and receive unconditional love and support in the midst of the horror. that's my 35 cents worth.
So I've been a little slow to pick up on the fact that you're back on the blog. Very exciting!!
Anyway, my vibe on this is that you are right - it depends on the person. And probably the circumstance.
I think talking is crucial to help me work though things. But thats me...
I also feel quite strongly that immediately putting people into counselling because they have, say, had someone commit suicide at their school, is not always the best course of action. Not everyone needs to have that particular outlet for their emotions. Maybe I'm not even saying that the talking here isn't helpful, but rather that people need to do things in their own time.
I read a bunch of stuff on PTSD a while ago and the thing that has stuck with me is the need to avoid a one-size-fits-all solution.
Glad you're back.
N
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